Giving up social media, time to live real life

Hello.

A few years ago, the pages of glossy magazines and online publications were flooded with stories

about digital detox.The habit of constantly looking at a smartphone, unlocking it a hundred times a day was unequivocally interpreted as harmful, and ways to deal with addiction were described. Manufacturers helpfully offered objective control tools, smartphones counted how much time you spend and in which application, allowed you to engage in self-deception and set limits. Most people set timers to limit themselves, no more than 2 hours on a social network, and after sorting out the time, they immediately removed the limit, since they literally needed one more minute. The fight against addictions without hard limits cannot be effective.

The life of the majority was rather unclouded, whichand allowed you to spend endless hours, buried in a small screen. Entertainment, information, sometimes just a thoughtless filling of your life by scrolling through other people's pictures and thoughts that are given out on the mountain. Everyone tried to form their own digital world according to their own patterns, meticulously controlled who got into it, and who was closed to entry. The illusion of information management turned into a game, there were no winners and losers, but only filling every day with one or another action. Being on social networks has become a habit. We, like Pavlov's dogs, have developed a conditioned reflex, which is fairly reinforced by the algorithms of social networks, because it is beneficial for their developers that we be present there, spend our time and bring an unconditional income.

The conditioned reflex trap is thatwe were hooked on “communication” on the network, and it was not by chance that I put this word in quotation marks, it is devalued in our time. It is impossible to have five thousand friends on a social network, just as it is impossible to communicate with strangers and receive an ersatz of ordinary emotions. Social addiction has become the scourge of our time, it changes our physiology, and this needs to be discussed separately and in detail.

Let's take a look at how many people on Earth are Internet users and how many people are on social networks.

These are practically the same values, that is,most of those who have access to the network use social networks, and many simply disappear into them all the time. Look at how much, on average, people spend daily on social media.

Two and a half hours spent on social networks(total online time is just under seven hours a day! A full-time job, right?). To believe that one day people will be able to abandon real communication and completely move into the virtual space is not so difficult, looking at these numbers. But they have a certain flaw, which suggests that the situation will develop linearly and will not change in any way in the future. As if our fascination with social networks will remain exactly the same as before. But it's not! And I have good news for all of us, online communication is starting to crack at the seams, as it suddenly turns out to be a surrogate for the real world and cannot provide the same opportunities.

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In the Russian realities of blocking social networksit seems that the decline in interest in them is due to the restrictions imposed by the state. Deputies love to brag about how effectively blocking works, and provide statistics that confirm their words. For example, Brand Analytics reports on social networks have become popular, which describe the change in the audience of authors and the amount of content that they produce.

The main thing is that the use of social networksis reduced, and this can be explained by blocking - such an interpretation lies on the surface. But I think that the situation is more interesting and deeper. For example, I have several social networks. He was almost never overly active on Facebook (the social network is recognized as extremist in Russia), as he almost always received a charge of negativity. As if people used this platform to share their negative emotions. Many acquaintances who in real life gave the impression of adequate, healthy people, in this social network turned into those who constantly whine, complain about something, stigmatize someone and behave strangely. This is largely due to the fact that the algorithms of the network are built in such a way as to evoke maximum emotions in you, they slip you messages that should annoy you, and not necessarily in a pleasant way.

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He was active on Twitter for a while, but thenstopped doing it, there was not enough time, and most importantly, the number of bots exceeded reasonable limits, there were too many of them. And for each message, there were dozens of responses from bots that promoted their agenda. Spending your life being a moderator on your own social media account is weird to say the least. The same Twitter was interested in the fact that as many people and bots as possible filled the pages of the network. The same Elon Musk is trying to find out how many bots have flooded Twitter, since the purchase price of this social network depends on it. There are clearly more than 5% of them, which is given by the social network itself as a kind of average estimate.

Probably spent most of his time inInstagram (in Russia recognized as an extremist social network). A lot of photos from trips, the habit of sharing the beauty of the world around. In the tape, I watched my acquaintances and friends, in total I spent 30-40 minutes daily on this activity. The position of Meta (the company is recognized as extremist in Russia) with permission to call for the murder of Russian citizens caused me a sharp reaction, I refused to be on this social network. And I don’t regret it at all, as a lot of time has been freed up.

Checked into EyeEm, even intermittentlyI post photos there, I have an account in Russian Now. But that habit of posting something all the time just disappeared. External events have accelerated what was happening before, namely the restoration of order in my digital life.

You can't be in more than one at the same time.social networks, conduct them in the first person. For this, stars and stars hire a whole staff of SMM specialists who manage social networks on their behalf, which, of course, discourages me. There were so many scandals when an SMM manager on behalf of his patron published something that caused a violent reaction, and the latter immediately denied what was said and said that completely different people run his social networks. So name your accounts something else, do not indicate your name there, otherwise you get a strange picture that confuses everyone.

Of course, as part of my work, I have tobrowse social networks, search for information in different sources, and this is an everyday routine. But the interest in maintaining my accounts in different networks is lost for me, it takes too much time, and the benefits are not very clear. I initially decided for myself that a personal account cannot be a place for advertising and promoting some goods and services, that is, there was no commercial interest and no. This is my personal space in which I share my thoughts, observations, I do it from time to time. I used to find time to write on my blog, but then I abandoned this activity - when there is a choice between life or entering letters into the computer, I always choose the first one. You need to live in such a way that there is simply no time left for social networks!

Probably for each of us it is the search for balance,when you can spend time on social networks without taking it away from other interesting activities. The awareness and rejection of wasting time in this way made it possible to read more books (and this is a separate pleasure), walks when you are not stuck on the phone screen and nothing annoys you. The heavens did not collapse, the world did not change, my communication with close friends and acquaintances did not suffer, it is increasingly moving into the plane of real contacts. It is impossible to grasp the immensity and constantly control what exactly happens in the lives of other people. And why? Keyhole peeping? I will never believe that you can be sincerely interested in the lives of dozens of different people and learn something about them every day.

Social media is changing, they will lose inpopularity. I see from the example of my children that they abandoned their social networks without prodding, too little time for them, too much falsehood, which is not really needed. Their example is not indicative, but still characterizes the situation, their friends live in approximately the same paradigm. They quickly got their bearings and figured it out, refused to waste time on empty things, in some ways I envy them, since it took me a completely different time.

I am surprised to hear this question:and you don’t feel sorry for leaving your account there, do you have tens of thousands of subscribers there? The question is how do you realize the importance of this or that thing, for me most of these people are strangers, I can never know them. I don’t see any point in doing self-promotion, I always share my findings and what is interesting. But at the same time, I understand that I am becoming a product for the owners of each platform on which they earn. And I'm not even against it, but every day I get more and more problems as a digital product, my data is sold, as a result, a huge amount of advertising is pouring on me and it is often distorted by social networks. There are many more minuses than the ghostly plus of the opportunity to tell something about yourself. Of course, if I traded advertising space, I would hold on to these subscribers, as bloggers do, who created their own fictional world of successful success. But for me it is not of interest in principle.

We were captured by social networks, capturedimposed ratings, likes and comments from strangers who praise or scold us. Since time immemorial, I have not reacted in any way to either praise or abuse, I care about such assessments only from people whom I know in everyday life and whose opinion I trust. I have no doubts that social networks will begin to lose their attractiveness, but it is another matter that they will fall gradually, under the influence of external factors. This will not lead to their disappearance, but the fact that our involvement in them, our fascination with them will undoubtedly pass. And this is to be welcomed.

We decided to ask how much time you spend on social networks, that's what happened.

Source: t.me/mobilereviewcom/12336

The results of the survey, albeit indirectly, confirmthat people are trying to regain their real life, and not be content with a simulacrum in the form of social networks. It's funny how social media actually makes people antisocial. Don't you find it very ironic?

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